The Dyke Whisperer

In recognition of the public nastiness that has emerged and will continue to surface from the Etheridge-Michaels split (Melissa filed papers this past Friday), let’s talk about toxic relationships!

You don’t have the time to waste in a toxic relationship. A toxic relationship will drain you of your energy and, eventually, your dignity (cf. Tammy’s blog entries). How do you know you’re in a toxic relationship?

If you hate going home …
If her mere presence makes you angry …
If you know what your next fight is going to be about before it happens …
If you use her bad behavior as an excuse for your bad behavior …
If you feel trapped …
If you feel hopeless …
If your closest friends don’t even listen to you complaining about her any more …

… you’re in a toxic relationship.

Things that Won’t Fix a Toxic Relationship:

1. Moving in together
2. Having / adopting a child
3. Adopting a pet (even a cute one)
4. More time together
5. A weekend get-away
6. A vacation
7. Couple’s therapy
8. Purchasing a home
9. Shouting matches
10. Crying

Get out. Get going.

Give yourself permission to live drama-free.

No need to make a public, trashy spectacle of yourself though.