“Other” Facebook Page
Dear Dyke Whisperer, I just found out this morning that my girlfriend has a second Facebook page. It is under her first and middle name. I am not on it obviously. I can view her “friends,” and I have no idea who some of these people are. I have been upset all day. Should I confront her about this when I see her after work?
Upset in Dallas
Dear Upset,
You should be suspicious but don’t get all crazy yet. The “other” Facebook page may be old and inactive. Frankly, it’s difficult to delete a Facebook page completely (the procedure is easy, but, often, the page remains).
Print out a copy of the page. After she’s had a chance to relax, tell her that you found her other Facebook page. Now, here’s the difficult part: DON’T ACCUSE HER OF ANYTHING and DON’T BE UPSET WHEN TALKING TO HER ABOUT THIS. IT MAY BE COMPLETELY INNOCENT.
If she tells you that it’s an old page, let it go. Tell her you’ll help her delete it. Go to the nearest computer and immediately start the process with her. Be suspicious of any hesitation or desire to delay this process.
Watch her reaction closely. If she denies it, show her your print-out. If she denies it, and it really is an “alternative” Facebook account, you’ve got a problem. If she gives you some story about having a special Facebook page for old friends or work associates, have her “add you” as a “Friend.” If she hesitates, you have a problem.
