Relationship Lifecycle, Part 2
It’s a tired analogy: when two people meet and there’s a connection, they begin to dance. The rhythm, the pace, the complexity, the intensity are mutually determined, or the dance is awkward. If one wants to foxtrot while the other tangos, it just won’t work.
When we can sync our moves, when it’s natural and right, when we have communion, then we begin our relationships.
As relationships end, there is a dance as well. Fighting is a dance. Hurting is a dance. If you identify this deliberate attempt at inflicting emotional pain, just stop dancing. Stop.
One person cannot fight with another unless the other is willing. Don’t verbally punch back. Put your words in your pocket and keep them there. Walk away.
And, if you do want to fight, ask yourself: “Is it worth it?” For the sake of all the good times, all the beautiful dancing, is it worth it?”
Either way, stop. If the dance isn’t fun anymore, if the rhythm is gone, if the music has soured, stop dancing. There are other partners, other soundtracks, and new beginnings.
