Telling an Ex About a New Lover
Dear Dyke Whisperer, I have a good relationship with my ex. We go out to lunch regularly and have great conversations. We never talk about dating or our interest in other women. I have recently started dating someone. Should I tell my ex or wait for her to bring up the subject of dating and a new love interest?
Husker in Lincoln
Dear Husker,
Tell your ex. If you have the same friends and have told them, she likely already knows.
If you want to be friends with an ex, you must treat her as you would your regular friends — with openness and respect. Start now. If she still has feelings for you, it will be obvious. Maybe you suspect that and don’t want to hurt her. However, what will really hurt her feelings is finding out about you and a new lover from friends or acquaintances rather than you.
