Mixed Feelings
Dear Dyke Whisperer, Please explain “mixed emotions.” Why do some women run hot then cold when you first meet them?
Baffled in Austin
So one day she’s attentive and engaging; the next day, she’s cold and disinterested. One day, you think your new relationship is blossoming; the next, she doesn’t return your phone call. She’s affectionate one day; stand-offish the next.
She’s either crazy or frightened. Unless she definitively proves otherwise, assume she’s frightened. Be patient. It’s just a dance those that have been wounded perform. It’s important, though, that YOU remain consistent.
If you’re the one doing this dance, trust her. Be cautious but give her the opportunity to get to know you.
