E-Mail from Ex
Dear Dyke Whisperer, I received an e-mail from an old girlfriend. We dated for 10 years, and that was three years ago. She was a big part of my life. Should I tell my girlfriend about this e-mail mesage? I really would like to establish some kind of link with my ex.
Sara in Chicago
Dear Sara,
Yes, tell your current girlfriend. Don’t be all giddy when you tell her though. Tell her BRIEFLY about this woman (if you already haven’t). Be sure to mention that the ex isn’t as intelligent, sensitive, beautiful, fun, etc. (choose appropriate adjectives) as she is. Show her the e-mail message.
Tell your girlfriend explicitly that you have no interest in reconciling with the ex EVER. Hopefully, that’s true. Explain that you do share an extensive history with the ex and would like to keep in touch on a very casual level.
If you decide to interact with the ex in person, you MUST invite your current girlfriend and focus at least 80% of your attention on her over the course of the meeting.
Now, of course, a problem will arise if you really want to get back together with your ex, but that’s a separate issue.
