Let’s Be Independent Together
Dear Dyke Whisperer, How does a woman be in a relationship and maintain her independence?
Sadie in Hamburg
Dear Sadie,
This is a critical issue. How does one be a vibrant, caring, attentive, responsive, and loving partner while staying true to oneself and one’s individuality?
I believe the only way to accomplish this is to find a woman who is equally as devoted to you as to her own independence. This threatens many women, who either seek the false comfort of a dominant partner or the false control of a submissive one. (Please note that I am not referring to fetish lifestyles here.)
In most couples, someone takes a dominant role in the relationship or in aspects of the relationship (e.g., finances, social life, recreation, etc.). Once someone assumes dominance regularly and routinely, the other’s independence — if it ever existed — will be threatened and ultimately compromised. This will lead to friction in the relationship as a struggle occurs or resentment as one loses her self-identity.
Women who are capable of being both independent and committed are rare and beautiful beings who should be respected and cherished. I wish you luck in finding one.
