Coming Out, Part 3
It is always important to remember that this is YOUR life, and YOU should be in control of how, when, where, why, and to whom you come out. Unless you are at a point and location in your life where these issues don’t matter, then the coming-out process must be managed. Be especially wary of well meaning, loud-mouthed “friends” who can’t for the life of them keep secrets.
This means that you should reveal your sexual orientation how, when, where, why and to whom when YOU WANT TO, under rational conditions. For example, when you are engaged in a heated dispute with your parents, when you are in an altercation, or when alcohol overtakes your ability to be rational and sensible, you need to shut the hell up about your sexual orientation. Think about the situation and the ramifications, ESPECIALLY if you are telling your family members, roommates, friends, or others that may or may not have a clue – and who have a direct bearing on your day-to-day existence.
If you present a rational case (I’ll discuss this tomorrow), you stand a better chance of being accepted MORE readily and MORE rapidly, and this is what you want.
Yes, I realize that some of you are reading and thinking: “what the fuck! I’m going to tell whomever I want, whenever I want!” Great. That means you’re probably already out. You are not who I’m advising right now. We all don’t have the circumstances, the fortitude, and the sensible opportunity to be out at any given moment in our lives.
