The Dyke Whisperer

Dear Dyke Whisperer, I know that a friend of mine is interested in me romantically although she has never said so directly. I don’t share these feelings. She is very sweet and very nice, and I would like to maintain her friendship. What should I do?

Dear Dana,

Sometimes the best way to inform a woman of your lack of romantic interest is to talk to her about a woman that you are romantically interested in. In a public place, tell your friend that you trust her completely and want some advice on how to pursue this other woman. Your friend will realize that you’re not interested and should quietly withdraw her pursuit.

Of course, she may cause a scene and accuse you of leading her on. Be prepared for this. Apologize if you need to. Remind her that you treasure her friendship and don’t want to lose it — even though you might. If she values you as a friend, these hurt feelings shouldn’t last though.

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