Here Come the Brides!
Dear Dyke Whisperer, My girlfriend and I are getting married in June! We’ve dated exclusively for a year and a half. I am so excited and grateful that I have found a wonderful woman who I want to share my life with. She doesn’t want a big wedding though. She believes that wedding vows are best exchanged privately. I, on the other hand, want EVERYONE to witness our love and commitment and want a HUGE wedding! She suggested I consult you (she’s too shy to write you herself). What do you suggest?
Jubilant in Jacksonville
Dear Jubilant,
First, congratulations and best wishes to you and your bride-to-be!
I can understand your enthusiasm in broadcasting your mutual love to the word. Similarly, I can comprehend your girlfriend’s resistance to transforming a personal, magical occasion into what she might perceive as a circus-like event.
Perhaps the sensible compromise is to have a small, private ceremony — followed by the reception of the year! She’ll have her solemn moment of quiet and intimate commitment; you can have your celebration with your friends and family.
The most critical elements involved in the concept of commitment between two people are trust, love, and respect. Just remember that this is the case now and will always be true, valid, and accurate. With these three elements present, your mutual happiness is not only possible, but probable. The commitment ceremony / wedding and subsequent reception are simply the acknowledgement and expression of this so have fun and enjoy your good fortune and each other!
Whatever you all decide, I sincerely wish you the best.
