How Do I Know if She Likes Me?
Dear Dyke Whisperer, There’s this woman I work with that I’m attracted to. She’s really friendly towards me and seems to go out of her to talk to me. How do I know if she “likes” me?
Hopeful in Hartford
Dear Hopeful,
An effective method to determine a woman’s intentions is to be reticent at times. Yes, this is difficult.
Let her fill in the gaps of conversational silence. Listen intently; make eye contact. If she’s more interested in the rest of the people in the room than you, she probably has no romantic interest. If she’s actively engaged in getting you to talk about you, she’s usually interested. Silence is a powerful tool.
Let her probe your mind. Offer her snapshots, not monologues.
Also, if you have romantic intentions, it is critical that she knows that you’re a lesbian. The proverbial ball is in her court at that point.
Something else, don’t mention ex-lovers to potential lovers. It will make you seem weak and needy. Just resist. There’s no better sex deterrent than to hear all about a messy lesbian “divorce.” Don’t start sentences with “My ex used to ….”
A neat little trick if you’ve been on one quasi-date and still have no idea if a woman is gay and/or interested: on the second “date,” slip a wedding-band-looking ring on your left ring-finger. If she asks you about it, comments on it, or visually examines it, she’s likely interested.
